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| A Faster Way |
Before we get deeply into ways to get back control, let me ask you, "Now that you've discovered that your mind has two parts (conscious/sub-unconscious) and that they both have particular limitations and duties or parameters. What's important about using this information to your advantage?
Don't go any further until you have answered that question if you want to get away from pain and discomfort while learning to live happier, healthier, wealthier and wiser. If you want to have better relationships, health that is more vibrant and abundant wealth, answer the question before you read the next paragraph.
Now, considering the answer to, "What's important about using this information to your advantage", ask yourself, "What's important about that?" This answer is the one you can use to motivate yourself to actually use what you will be learning in this article.
If you really want to super charge your motivation, take the last answer you gave yourself and ask, "Ultimately, what's important about (last answer) and what will having (last answer) get me?"
Then simply add a sense of urgency, blended with a sense of desire into this last answer and "Walla"; how strongly can you feel the motivation growing now? If you were to salt that liberally with one of those power "YES's", you know the yes you feel when you do something you didn't think you were going to be able to do and you do it anyway. That kind of "YES"! How powerful does that feel?
Now you could also, after learning these simply skills and patterns, imagine already haven been using them in your past for the last thirteen months. What would your future look like, sound like and feel like if your responses in the future were the new responses that you have been practicing for the last thirteen months?
Now Grampa Vetter would ask, "Wouldn't they now be old responses that are better than the old responses you would have had if you hadn't taken on the new responses that are now old?" He also said, "Give me ambiguity or give me something else!"
To review let's look at the parameters of both the conscious and the sub-unconscious parts of our mind. By knowing the parameters we can see the limits, duties and responsibilities of each part of our mind.
The "Conscious" Mind Parameters:
- It focuses
- It makes value judgments (understands right/wrong-good/evil)
- Creates it's own logic.
- Analytical
- Evaluates
- It is the captain
- Has little power to accomplish things
- Goal seeking mechanism
- Takes everything literal
- Motivated by pain/pleasure
- Unable to comprehend right/wrong
- Processes language
- Looks for patterns
- Unable to process negation
- Likes to play and please
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| The Best Communication Tool |
One writer likens the "sub-unconscious" mind to a young child. He believes he has never met an unconscious over the age of seven. I don't know if he is right or not and yet, the concept that we respond and communicate with our "sub-unconscious" part as if we were teaching a child we love is very, very useful.
From this model, it may become apparent, communication between the conscious and sub-unconscious is the real key to getting anything done. It also makes it obvious why so many people have problems or think they are broken. When in reality they aren't broken, they have simply failed to learn how to communicate with themselves.
Because the truth is you, work perfectly. Everything that we get in our lives is because we have programmed or allowed to be programmed into us. That is why some people seem to get what they want and others never do. Now we at least have a model we can use to even the playing field.
Is how we are communicating to ourselves helping us get what we want or is it holding us back? Is it moving us in the direction where we want to go or is it allowing us to blame something or someone else for what is going on? Is how we are communicating empowering us or dis-empowering us?
Since we cannot not communicate, what are we communicating to ourselves first? Feelings of blame, shame, guilt, fear or not quite measuring up are all things we have communicated to ourselves based on the value judgments and evaluations of our conscious mind and the mind-read we have attached to others' communication. Well the truth of the matter is, they are just communicating what is going on inside of them and it is no more the true than what is going on inside of us.
What if on the conscious level we realized, "there is no such thing as blame, shame, guilt, fear or not quite measuring up." There is just feedback we can use to calibrate to what we want and make the adjustments that move us closer to our goals.
Naturally, as we were to take everything as Feedback consciously, we easily move in the direction of what we want as opposed to what we don't want. When we consciously take everything as feedback our sub-unconscious looks at where we are going and looks for a pattern that will get us there with the most pleasure.
A Reminder...
The Sandwich of Communication is... (how misunderstanding come about)
I know what I mean when I say something.You know what you mean when you say something.
You don’t really know what I mean by when I say something.
I think I know what you mean when you say something.
You think you know what I mean when I say something.
Since we communicate first with ourselves, it is imperative that we learn to language ourselves in the most useful way possible. The first thing we can do to help ourselves is to take any negative self-descriptions, any problems that are presenting themselves to us at this time and anything that is limiting us in the past tense. As an example, you can use the phrase “Up until now” this and that, or “In the past” thus and so.
Another powerful thing we can do is replace the word “but” with the word “and". Everything behind the word "but" is canceled out. “You’re doing a good job, but…” Change it to “You’re doing a good job and…”
Like Grampa Vetter used to say, “No boubt adout it, Grandma’s sweeter when she says she loves me ‘and’…. It’s when I hear the ‘but’ that I know it’s gonna be my butt. Because "But” means my butt is going to pay".
Another thing that will really help us is replacing the world “can’t” with the more honest word “won’t”. This allows us to be more responsible to and for ourselves.
We also want to substitute the word “could” for the word “should". Do this experiment. Say, “I should do this”. Then say, “I could do this”. Which feels better? “Should” will probably feel heavier and “could” should feel lighter. OK “could”, could feel lighter.
All the words like should, must, have to, need to, which limit our ability are easily replaced with words like can, will, could, able to and it's my choice to etc. These words of possibility allow our engine to run on high-grade rocket engine fuel.
One other word (and this is a word you will eliminate completely) is “try". I want you to read this line of print and then I want you to “try” and read this line of print. What is the difference between reading and “trying” to read? The difference to your sub-unconscious, because it takes things literally, is the word “try” which presupposes failure. Eliminate the word “try” and replace it with a word such as “will".
A useful way to respond to unwanted information (insults, criticisms and guilt statements) is to begin your response with: “I appreciate and… I respect and… or I agree and…”
When someone says, “You are absolutely wrong” about this situation, you could easily respond, “I respect the strength of your feelings in regard to this, and I think if you were to fully hear my side of the story you, might think things differently.
These are but a few of the ways to communicate, mostly with ourselves, so that we are taking into consideration how our engine (sub-unconscious) runs so that we can finally get the great results that we have always wanted.
If you want this article to be more than just some good information, let me suggest that you apply the first part of this article to the last part because the answer to, "Are you in control or are they?" is they are! They being our conscious mind and our sub-unconscious mind combined.
If you really want the way to direct and control both your conscious and sub-conscious get "This One Secret".
To learn more from Dr. Houston Vetter, aka Doc Houston, Houston, hey you or DocResults visit DocResults.com
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