I thought it might be useful to share some questions I've received and answers that I have given.
Q: We don't decide before hand how we are going to feel when we meet someone new do we? Don't we check with our Emotional Guidance System and recognize how we feel about them? We can be highly drawn to one person but not another but we didn’t decide it before hand did we?
A: We do decide before hand by making preferences. Our Emotional Guidance System is created by our giving meaning. The 1st Forgotten Fundamental of An Exquisite Life is, "The Individual is The Meaning Maker". Usually once one makes a preference consciously it goes unconscious and becomes part of the patterns we run. Our patterns determine where we are (how we feel) on the scale of emotions in regards to a certain event, situation or person, place or thing.
(Special note:) We are not used to what I am about to suggest and yet it really is appropriate to do. Anytime that you feel bad if you will begin to celebrate it will help relieve some of the negative charge. Why celebrate? BECAUSE your emotions are working perfectly. They let us know we are thinking thoughts that are not in agreement with our strongest intention (desire).
As an example having the thought that it would be nice that nothing is more important than that I feel good is a great, fun thought and until it becomes your pattern of thinking (your dominant thought) it does not control how you feel. Once it does it will control how you feel.
Q: I can kind of understand the concept of 'not giving a rip' about what others think/feel until I think of our loved ones, especially our partner. Why don't we care if they feels love towards us? Surely we want our partner to feel love for us..
A: Simply because you cannot think or feel for them and they can't think or feel for you. So if you have zero ability to think or feel for another what they think or feel is totally out of your control and wanting something that is out of your control is less than useful like being in the driver’s seat of a car, traveling 60 miles and hour with no steering wheel.
As a master teacher once said...
The Thoughts I Think Determine the Relationship I Attract... You are the thinking, Vibrating attractor of your experience; and the thoughts you think determine everything about the life that you live. As you turn your attention toward the positive aspects of the personalities and behaviors of others with whom you share your planet, you will train your point of attraction in the direction of only what you desire. Not only does the power of your thought determine which people make their way into your life, but the power of your thought determines how they behave once they get there.
That is why I wrote Train Your Thinking and it is the foundation behind This One Secret. If you want any one on one work in this area feel free to Contact Me.
